If you are always awkward when chatting with girls, it is easy for girls to lose interest in continuing to chat. If you encounter such a problem and do not solve it in time, you will really have to be alone. So how can you resolve the awkward chat with girls?</p p>
The reason why chatting with girls is awkward is because everyone is always in these states when chatting:
1 , keep asking questions, the topics are boring, and cannot arouse girls' emotions.
We have interviewed girls before, and they all said that they would subconsciously resist and be wary when faced with continuous questions.
Therefore, asking questions all the time is not only boring, but also makes the "distance" between you farther and farther.
2. Frequent self-doubt, lack of confidence in front of girls, and inability to show myself.
This is a state that every boy will have, so that they become less and less confident when chatting with girls, causing an imbalance in the balance between the sexes.
Some boys even fall into self-doubt when a girl takes the initiative and feel that they are not good enough for her.
This is because after being rejected by a girl, most boys will become less confident and feel that they are not good at anything, and girls will definitely look down on them.
It is natural for people to be frustrated for a short period of time after being rejected, but you have to remember that you should not admit that you are poor, but should become more confident and outstanding, so that the girls who rejected you before regret it!
p>In view of the above two common situations, I will teach you a high-EQ chat technique and tell you how to solve them.
Skill 1: Cold Reading Chat Method
As we mentioned earlier, asking questions will make girls move further and further away from you. The "Cold Reading Chat Method" can solve this problem. Make girls like chatting with you.
Let me first introduce you to a psychological term: cold reading.
It is an interpersonal communication technology that captures what the other person is thinking, speaks to the other person’s mind, and thus achieves psychological resonance with the other person.
This is how this trick is used to chase girls: instead of directly talking about some of her strengths, talk about her weaknesses.
For example, when the topic of personality comes up, you can say to her:
"Some girls look carefree and strong on the surface, but they are actually very fragile on the inside."
If she agrees with this, you can continue to say:
"You are such a girl, always optimistic, and you will digest any unhappy things in your heart slowly. , I never vent to others and don’t want to affect other people’s mood.”
She will have emotional fluctuations after seeing this sentence, and she will also feel that you have your own understanding of people and things, which is true. Someone who knows her and understands her.
Tip 2: Show feedback chat method
In fact, many boys are not outstanding, but they just don’t have the opportunity to show themselves in front of girls. At this time, you need to use "display + feedback".
If a girl takes the initiative to ask you, it is definitely a good opportunity for you to show off. But if the girl doesn’t ask, then you need to "lay the groundwork" yourself and then show yourself. Let me give you a common example:
“Looking at Moments, are you reading a book?” (relevance foreshadowing)
“Yes”
“ Which book? I want to list it in my reading plan" (showing that she and I have common interests, and asking for recommendations instead of asking questions)
"Alive, Yu Hua's, I have read it "I was moved and sad"
"I just finished watching it a while ago! Especially when I saw only Lao scalper and Fugui at the end, I wanted to cry as a grown man." Answer and give feedback. Even if you haven’t read it, you can search it on Baidu based on the title of the book.)
In short, stop asking questions all the time. Show yourself to the girl and give feedback to what she says.
