When they first get to know a girl, many boys are used to chatting with the girl every day, but even if you like the other person, your behavior of chatting with her every day is wrong, even if you have a good chat every time.
As for the reasons, there are mainly three points:
1. It will make girls I feel that I have nothing to do all day long, which leaves her with a low-value impression. As time goes by, she will not want to talk to you anymore.
2. It will reveal a sense of need. Girls with a little experience will be able to see your thoughts at a glance, and then they will be wary of you.
3. People don’t cherish things that are easily obtained. When chatting with a girl every day, she will deliberately ignore us because she feels that we are always available, because she is confident that no matter what she does to you, You are always waiting to hear back from her.
How should you chat with a girl you just met?
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When you first meet a girl, be sure not to pursue her too closely. You must know that at this stage, two people do not understand each other, and it is normal for them to have no topic. The more anxious they are, the easier it is to finish the topic. Falling into a situation where there is nothing to talk about.
Therefore, our most important task at this stage is to let each other understand each other, first eliminate the other party's sense of alertness, and at the same time leave a good impression on her as much as possible.
Regarding the rhythm of chatting, remember this formula: "Two days for a small question, three days for a day of chatting." Don't be too enthusiastic, otherwise your needs will be exposed easily, and don't be too cold, otherwise it will be easy for girls to forget who you are.
When you are not chatting, you can browse through her circle of friends and like the updates that you find interesting. Or make a comment to make yourself familiar.
At the same time, you can also post some moments in your circle of friends that show your "good living status". Make her more impressed with you. For example, you are cooking, you are working hard, you are actively working out, etc.
This also achieves the purpose of attracting girls’ attention. Remember, you can’t eat hot tofu in a hurry. When you first get to know a girl, just let both parties know each other's status.
2. After you have a certain understanding of each other, try to invite them
When you have a certain understanding of each other When the topic is over, instead of thinking about how to find something to talk about every day, it is better to directly try to ask the other person out, so that your contact can be transferred from online to offline, and let the girl feel real about you.
Of course, as for how to invite the other party, you just have toYou need to find a common topic with her, and then use a small method to reduce the probability of rejection by her, such as "reducing stress" or "emphasis on the hard-won opportunities."
For example:
"Looking at your circle of friends, do you also like hot pot? A new hot pot restaurant has recently opened downstairs in my company. Go and get 50% off for two people. ."
Another example:
"Some new movie has been released recently, and our company happened to give out two movie tickets. Let's go and watch it together.
The principle of these two examples is to emphasize to the other party that "there will be no such store after passing this village." Unless the girl is already resistant to you, there is a high probability that she will not reject you.
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