How to chase a girl who is kind but distant-



Some girls seem to have a very good personality, but once you come into contact with her, you feel a sense of distance. How should you pursue this kind of girl? Here are some methods:

1. Affirm her

When we interact with her, we must take the initiative to acknowledge her, that is, to praise her.

Don’t praise her politeness and accomplishments, as this will deepen her “lonely sense of superiority.” What we have to do is to turn her “lonely sense of superiority” into “two people’s sense of superiority.” ", stand on the same moral platform with her, and look down on everyone together.

What she really needs to be praised and what she wants to hear most is for you to name an advantage that no one else has mentioned about her before. Don't tell her "Some people said this about me before, but I think I'm actually not like this" opportunity.

For example, praise her:

"Have you ever noticed that you have strong hands-on ability before?"

"Suddenly I feel that your logical thinking ability is very strong"

 "Such a strong girl is really heartbreaking"

2. Help her

The girl who seems to be very kind but has a sense of distance actually longs for someone to help her the most. Therefore, in the face of shared responsibilities, we must be the first to bear it, defend her in the group, and excuse her.

At the same time, take a step ahead of her, complain about this unfairness for her, and try to understand and comfort her grievances.

Even to help her get rid of this slightly weak character in front of others, to crush her with mature three views, to solve some of her confusions about life, and to make her stand up:

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"In this world, some people choose to be bad people, and feel at ease, but they also feast on gluttons; some people choose to be good people, and are affectionate and righteous, but they have nothing to eat; it sounds unfair, but if you think about it carefully, It’s just that bad people benefit and good people gain fame, and everyone gets what they need”

3. Hidden sense of need

Unless she has a crush on you in advance, otherwise you should avoid showing her pursuit in front of her. The first thing we need to give her is a sense of distance, and then a sense of discount.

For example:

The sense of distance can produce a sense of luxury. This has been applied in marketing. In many luxury stores, there are no shopping guides who are particularly enthusiastic. It is recommended that you must buy one to take home.

This sense of high-end will make you want to save enough money to buy it. When it suddenly goes on sale one day, you will buy it immediately.

On the other hand, for this kind of proud people, the correct attitude is to rationalize the interaction.

To be specific, don’t talk about life with others as soon as you get in touch with them. They are very sensitive and will spontaneously resist.

But if you use things around youIt would be wonderful to rationalize the interaction based on love, first exchange ideas, then give her recognition, and then expand in depth.

Since we must conduct transactions, we might as well be one step ahead of her in the interaction and complete the transaction direction we want.

For example, if you help her make a ppt, she might originally say thank you to you, or buy you a small gift to thank you, but we seize the opportunity and shamelessly say " Don’t say thank you yet, just treat me to dinner on the weekend. I heard there is a new restaurant that is good."

Of course, when paying the bill after dinner on the weekend, you can play a small game. Put two people’s mobile phones on the table and let the waiter randomly select a mobile phone to pay the bill.

Don’t be afraid that she will think you are stingy, because they want to complete the deal and no longer owe favors. Don't be afraid that she won't want to play, because she looks quiet and serious on the outside, but she actually loves to play in her heart.

4. Give her an experience she has never had before

If you want to chase someone who is attractive to everyone around you Polite girl, from now on, in this group, you must not be rigid, make jokes every day, and show off appropriately at the appropriate time.

To a certain extent, being in the limelight is an unbridled display of strengths.

The strengths of the opposite sex that most attract their attention are talent, leadership, IQ, and social recognition. The best way to show it is the proud and funny method, which I won’t go into details here.

Make a bet with her, take risks with her, do some small moral violations with her, things that she never dared to think about. Don’t be afraid of her weak verbal rejection, just be strong. Lead her to "become evil".

Believe me, the state of getting along in love should actually appear before the confession. Only if she is satisfied with this state, she will eagerly look forward to your confession.


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