When we first start chasing a girl, we usually use her WeChat Moments to find out about her daily life and find topics to chat with. But if we are chasing a beautiful girl, she won’t post in her WeChat Moments. How should we chat with her and how to catch her?
First of all, we must know that chatting is a process of obtaining information and energy. However, many brothers live a monotonous life and have contact with the opposite sex. There are also very few opportunities. I don’t know what to do every day. If I am in a state of being a loser, I will feel particularly lacking. My entire consciousness will flow out, which is what we often call random thoughts.
Once people lack something, they want to fill it. When there is a slight response from the outside world, they will feel particularly important and easily influenced by others. If their own lives are relatively monotonous, they will easily place their hopes on girls. Observing a girl’s circle of friends to obtain chat materials for chatting is very passive, and it is unrealistic to use this method to chase a beautiful girl.
So the problem is not at all about how many girls post on Moments, but about the simplest chat material.
1. How to obtain chat materials
When it comes to chat materials, you can actually talk about any topic with girls. , does not have any limitations, but many people think that they have to rely on insinuations to get it. They place their hopes on the other party's circle of friends. They even think that asking girls some questions will appear impolite and be regarded as a check. This view of household registration is extremely wrong. If you don’t ask a girl questions, how can you understand her? Do you rely on guessing?
You must understand that there is no problem in asking a girl questions. If there is a problem, you cannot Always ask questions and make it look like an interrogation.
Girls will definitely be bored by asking such fatal questions like "Where are you from?" "How old are you?" "Do you work?" because they are constantly asking for information and value during the chat, but there is no Giving feedback and value and asking questions too hastily will only make people feel uncomfortable and offended.
Another point is that many people are relatively direct when asking questions, such as: "How old are you?" "What do you do?" Without any foreshadowing, this way of asking will give people a sense of confusion. This self-respecting and aggressive communication attitude is also very offensive.
2. How to ask girls the right questions
Asking girls some questions during chat can deepen your understanding of her. Understand, it is easier to chat, but before asking questions, it is best not to ask too directly. Here are two methods recommended for everyone:
The first is to explain something before asking the girl. Your own status, for example, if you ask a girl what she is doing, you can say something like this: "The air outside is so nice when I went out for a night run today. What are you doing?"
First explain your status to the girl, take the initiative to provide a topic for the girl, and then ask the girl why. Think of it this way as if there are two topics, one is to talk about the night run, and the other is to talk about the girl.
The other way is to use some information from the previous chat with the girl to ask the girl questions, or ask the girl what she is doing. You can say something like this: "I remember you raised a dog last time we chatted. Cat, what is your little cat busy with?”
Here we don’t directly ask what the girl is doing, but ask her cat what she is doing. This way of asking can better hide the question. Girls’ sense of need, and this way of asking is more interesting and easier for girls to accept.
3. How to guide girls
When we take the initiative to start a topic, we want to make the chat smooth To continue, you need to take the initiative to guide girls and understand that good communication involves exchanging information with each other. This communication is not one-way.
Therefore, if you really want to get in touch with this girl, whether the girl posts in Moments or not will not affect your chatting with her. If you want to know information about this person that you don’t know, you can ask directly. As long as you give feedback on the other person's answers instead of asking questions all the time, you won't be resented.
Some people may be embarrassed to ask the other person why they don’t post on Moments, and feel that it is impolite to ask these questions. However, everyone must understand that when interacting with others, although information and topics are important, the more important thing is An attitude is called: sincerity.
When you meet a girl who has been visible in her friend circle for three days, you can ask her: "Is it because you have been visible in your friend circle for three days because too many people have added you?"
At this time, you can use this topic to ask the girl about her reasons and attitude towards you. No matter how the girl answers, you can guide her according to her reply, such as:
Male: Look at your friends Is it visible for three days because too many people have added you?
Female: No, it’s mainly because there are so many colleagues and it’s inconvenient
Male: Yes, that’s the same for me , sometimes I was lazy to watch a variety show when I was working overtime, but I was caught by the boss after I posted it on WeChat Moments
Female: Haha, you are so miserable
Male: You are on WeChat Do you have a lot of colleagues? I generally don’t have many colleagues because I don’t want to bring work into my life
Female: It’s okay, I don’t really care about it
Extended from asking girls about their circle of friends When it comes to topics related to work, personnel relations, etc., first express your understanding of the things that have been visible in the girl's friend circle for three days, resonate emotionally, and then emotionally establish a common topic with the other party so that the chat can proceed smoothly and be able to Continuously increase your understanding of girls during chatting.
In fact, the role of the circle of friends in the entire chat process is minimal, so whether the other person is beautiful or not, the circle of friends is invisible, as long as the topic is opened, it is irrelevant.
