DINK is a word that has become popular in recent years. In our daily lives, we often hear friends around us saying that they want to be DINK. So what does DINK mean?
1. The meaning of DINK
I believe everyone is familiar with the word DINK. It comes from the English DINK (Double Income) No
Kids), which means that neither couple wants children. Of course, a Dink is not childless because he is infertile. Only a Dink who has the ability to have children but actively chooses not to have children can be called a Dink.
The concept of DINK has become very popular in society in recent years. Many couples, especially young people, plan to choose this marriage model just to feel relaxed and comfortable.
This is indeed a fact. Needless to say, the pain of giving birth to a child is obvious. Everyone knows how troublesome it is to raise a child. Not having to take care of children saves a lot of troubles, and there is no need to spend money on children. The couple has more time and financial ability to enjoy the world of two people, and be happy and carefree. For young people, isn't this a strong temptation?
This kind of marriage model that goes against the tradition will inevitably be criticized. Many people say that the DINK couple are simply selfish. Giving up raising children in exchange for one's own freedom is simply irresponsible and greedy for pleasure. For traditional parents, it is simply a worse crime than not getting married.
When it comes to this, people will definitely stand up and object. People do not live to carry on their family lineage. Everyone has the right to choose how to live. Why do they have to live according to a certain inherent way?
Indeed, with the changes in social concepts, childbirth has become a right rather than an obligation. We have the freedom to decide to have children and the freedom not to have children. No one should force us.
2. What happens to those who say they want Dink in the end?
Is Dink selfish or not? I have no right to evaluate or criticize.
But, is DINK really a good choice?
Among the more well-known DINK couples, Er Dongsheng has to occupy a place.
Speaking of this great director, he has always been known as a romantic talent. As a talent, I believe everyone is very familiar with just a few of the movies he made, such as "The King of Guns", "I Am a Passerby" "A", "Eavesdropping" and so on.
This talented man is not only talented, but also has a handsome appearance and a height of 183cm. His appearance is so outstanding that he has been surrounded by women since he was young.
When I was 16 years old, I fell in love with my first girlfriend, 14-year-old Yu Anan. During their eight-year relationship, the two filmed several movies together. movie, andMost of them play couple roles in movies. After dating for eight years, the two realized they were not suitable for each other and broke up peacefully. Later, he had relationships with a mysterious producer and Maggie Cheung.
The talented man has been passionate since ancient times, but he is said to be passionate, but in fact he is also very ruthless.
In 1999, Er Dongsheng met kindergarten teacher Luo Xiaowen and married in 2008. This is his second wife and the partner he has been with the longest.
When they got married, Luo Xiaowen was already quite young, close to 40 years old. She had to have children as early as possible. It's just that Er Dongsheng once declared in public that he would stick to DINK and only get married without having children. Luo Xiaowen resolutely supported his decision for the sake of love. She said: I already have you in my life, and there will be no regrets if I don't have children.
It seems that two people can have a good time without the interruption of children Live their own two-person world and carry this glue-like love to the end.
What is surprising is that in 2018, when Er Dongsheng was 61 years old, he suddenly made news because of his sudden joy with his daughter. The mother of the child is a 33-year-old outsider woman named Er Dongsheng. The child was already over two years old in 2018. At the same time, he revealed that he had divorced Luo Xiaowen last year.
As soon as the matter was exposed, Er Dongsheng immediately attracted a lot of scolding. I believe everyone knows the nature of this matter at a glance. Although he denied it when it was first exposed, the fact is that it was a marital affair.
Cheating and having children with a third party is not the point. The point is that the revelation of this matter is simply a slap in the face. He The so-called DINK suddenly became a joke.
How unfair it is that Luo Xiaowen has been dragged to old age for more than ten years. Er Dongsheng, who claimed that Dink had already given birth to a child with another woman, took her 47-year-old who had lost her fertility. Abandoning, this is so heartless and unjust.
Dink is indeed selfish. The selfish thing is that he may regret it at any time.
The insistence on not having children can only be maintained by the subjective will of both parties. This is simply a test of human nature, and the fragility can be imagined.
Without a firm belief, a good life plan, and no arrangements for future life, then the so-called DINK agreement is just like the oath of a scumbag man and scumbag woman, and its only function is to violate it .
Three, DIs DINK a good choice?
The reason why many people decide on DINK is because the fear of having children and the hardship of raising them overcome their psychological desire for children, but their psychological desire may be awakened at any time later. . If you regret being fashionable and young, it’s okay to say that it’s all too late. If you miss the best childbearing age when you are older, you will be in big trouble.
In the final analysis, Dink is a beautiful trap for many people. Even if he doesn't regret it, Dink is not that happy. Not to mention raising children for old age, just the problem of loneliness has caused countless elderly people to suffer. I think no one wants to be alone forever.
Unless you have made a complete plan for your life and have the ability to protect it, please do not make a decision easily. Once you leave regrets in life, you will have to pay for it throughout your life.
Of course, whether it is childbirth or DINK, it is an attitude towards life and a life experience. Following your own heart is the real choice.
Having children has never been for anyone. There is no need for us to have to give birth to a child in order to continue the family lineage, and there is no need to deliberately not have children in order to pursue freedom in life.
Once you choose DINK, remember to always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude. The two of you can save a pension fund together to ensure that you can take care of yourself after losing the ability to work. Then you can live a life like this from young to old. Why not?