Suppose you two are in the ambiguous stage, and now you seem to know that the gap between your family backgrounds seems a bit big, and you are hesitating whether to continue to be together. Then please read on.
In the relationship between men and women, whether entering a formal love relationship or a marriage relationship, a certain degree of irrational impulse and a certain degree of liking are required. The degree of liking of both parties determines whether it is impulsive or not, and whether you will regret it after starting.
At the same time, another big influencing factor is ‘whether there is a future’.
Although it is a bit disappointing to start a relationship at the beginning, but it is not a discussion, you still have to have a direction in your mind.
If you all go for the future.
From a practical perspective, I think:
1. He makes you like him in every aspect;
2. He is also satisfied as a man/woman Some characteristics of a friend or future partner.
3. The starting point is to run towards someone who has results (at least work hard in this regard);
So these three points are basically satisfied, and when it is time to fall in love, fall in love. If you are not satisfied, don't start easily.
The same goes for the gap in family status. If the relationship involves the future, it must be based on material conditions.
This will involve the basic material needs of different people in emotions. Some people have high demands and value material things more than individuals; some people value individuals more than material things and it depends on what you are like.
For example, if the other person’s conditions are too poor, his family may still have burdens, and his personal abilities are average, and you are a person with your own requirements, it is very likely that it will be difficult for him to meet your requirements.
But as long as the other person’s ability and character are online, and although the family is similar, it will not hold him back, then consider ‘the individual is greater than the family background’. On the contrary, if the other person’s family is better than yours, how would you pay attention?
Although in the marriage and love market now, everyone is avoiding Phoenix men and women. Not as good as that, but I still have to say that some people really have many very good qualities. They endure hardships and endure hardships, and have achieved little success through their own efforts. Although their family background is average, their parents taught them the principles of life and work from an early age. They never take advantage of petty gains, nor trouble others, and are affectionate and righteous. For such men and women, Why can't you look for one?
Of course, we should also consider the aspect of recognizing people and avoiding lightning, but we can't just look at the 'family background', but also the person.
At this point, my personal suggestion is: character is greater than ability.
If you originally just wanted to find someone to accompany you in college, or fall in love just for the sake of falling in love, as long as many of his qualities are passable or he doesn’t have bad habits, you can actually date him, and you don’t have to think too much about it.
Interaction itself is a process of getting to know people.The relationship between lovers is determined by the habits brought by your original family and your own values. Interacting with the opposite sex means constantly learning and reflecting on how to get along with the opposite sex. Practical practice is far greater than theory. Falling in love is both experience and school. This process can only be felt through personal experience.
Generally speaking, when there is a large gap in family status, it is very important to balance the prejudices of both parties and their families of origin. This will test the qualities and methods of both parties.
It is difficult for most of us ordinary people to meet people who are very different from themselves in life. Most people live in circles where even if their conditions are slightly better/worse, they will not be in the same situation. It would be 'too much' bad to be good.
It is difficult for two people who are completely different to live in the same circle.
If it’s just better or worse, but not unattainable, then if you like him enough, adjust your mentality and fall in love boldly; if you don’t like him, have the courage to refuse.
College campus is a rare golden period for love. If you think the other person is good, then be brave enough to seize the opportunity to fall in love. There are always people who regret missing out. The basic requirements for love in college and the needs after entering society may also change according to you, but the starting point for selection is based on your current basic personal needs for relationships.
