When chasing a girl, you usually start by chatting, and only after the relationship develops to a certain level can you proceed to the next step of invitation. However, most boys are not very good at chatting, and the relationship still stalls after chatting for a long time. So how do you chat with a girl?
First, let’s look at a failure case:
In this conversation, we took out each sentence individually and couldn't find any mistakes, but when put together, the atmosphere was very awkward.
Boys are trying to find common topics, and hope to bring the relationship closer between them by praising girls. It is understandable that the starting point is right, but they cannot get positive feedback from girls.
Why is this?
Think carefully about whether you are in this state when chatting.
1. Keep asking girls questions
There are countless boys who ignore girls’ emotions when chatting and keep asking questions. The most taboo in a warm chat is to be in a "question-answering mode" for a long time. It can make people feel dull and boring.
Put yourself in my shoes, if you were a girl, would you still be interested in answering this chat?
2. Excessive flattery and compliments
"Little beauty", "You are the most beautiful", "Beautiful people always have selfies on their phones", these words are enough to disgust a girl who is not familiar with you 100 times.
There is nothing wrong with girls liking to hear sweet words, but praising her in this way is too superficial and will annoy girls~
In view of the above common mistakes, you can change the way to make girls Love chatting with you.
You must know that chatting is not just for you to chat, you have to show yourself to girls, for example, let her know your advantages and know that you are They have common hobbies and topics.
You also need to give feedback on what she said. Asking questions is not the purpose, communication is. When a girl answers your question, she does not want you to continue asking her another question, but she wants you to give her feedback on what she said!
Error demonstration:
"What are you doing?" (question)
"Reading a book"
"What book?" (none) Feedback + continue to ask questions)
“Alive”
“Does it look good?”
Correct demonstration:
“Look at Moments, you are "Reading a book." (Statement instead of question) "Yes" Have common hobbies and ask for recommendations instead of asking questions)
"Stay alive, Yu Hua's, I was both touched and sad after watching it."
"I just finished watching it a while ago! Especially when I saw only Lao scalper and Fugui at the end, I, a grown man, wanted to cry. "(Feedback on the girl's answer, even if you haven't read it, you can search it on Baidu based on the title of the book)
Maybe you really have no topic to talk about, but don't keep asking. When you want to tell her When you understand something, you can ask one or two questions, and then you will be asked to "show + feedback"
