With the opening of the mind, living together before marriage is nothing new now, but after all, two people living together before marriage are not married in the true sense, so there are still many issues that need to be paid attention to. What are the conditions for living together before marriage? What issues should we pay attention to?
What issues should we pay attention to when living together before marriage?
1. Put away your desire for control
Many couples break up after living together, which is a big deal. The reason is that one of the parties is a perfectionist and has a strong desire to control. Think about it, before you live together, your lover has a perfect filter in your heart. He may be a handsome business elite, and she may be a cute little fairy. But after living together, you will have a big psychological gap. Because both male gods and fairies have to poop and fart. He might have turned into a smelly, rough guy, and she might have become a sloppy, lazy woman. No one is perfect. When we live together, we expose each other’s truest sides to each other, so we must put away our “perfect expectations” for our lovers and be moderately tolerant of each other’s shortcomings. We cannot force the other party to make corrections just because they did not throw away the garbage and their clothes are in a disorderly manner. This means putting away your excessive desire for control. You can be perfect, but you can't ask the other person to be as perfect as you. You can't force the other person to live according to your habits. Everyone should have their own freedom and private space.
However, it is worth noting that although we need to adjust our mentality, this does not mean that we should let his bad habits go. If you compromise every time, you will have no bottom line in the future. Regarding this, we have ways to deal with it and use some words to guide lovers to make changes.
2. Pay attention to the sense of ritual
I have seen such cases before. There was a couple who started a long-distance relationship in college. Their relationship has always been very good, talking sweetly and talking on the phone every day. After graduation, the long distance ended, but the relationship is still very good. But just like this, a couple broke up after living together for less than half a year. They have gone through the youth of college, the pressure when they first graduated, and the most difficult two years after graduation, but they did not escape the half year of living together. The couple split amicably. The two agreed that they had nothing to talk about after living together and their life was too boring. The woman asked me to help her analyze her relationship. I found that the couple was very compatible in all aspects and had a high emotional intensity. The reason why they broke up after living together was because they ignored the "sense of ritual." After many couples live together, they no longer have a sense of ritual. They no longer say I love you, no longer buy flowers and gifts, and no longer spend time thinking about making each other happy. They think: since they all live together, they don't need to pay attention to these small details. The sense of ritual is not a small detail, but the preservative of love.
3. Mutual trust
After two people are together, they should give each otherEnough trust, and don't doubt each other easily. After all, suspicion will have a great impact on each other's feelings, and if the two of you can always trust each other, and you will not do anything to cause misunderstandings, things, then the relationship will naturally last for a long time.
4. Mutual tolerance
When two people with completely different personalities get together, they will naturally have some differences and misunderstandings in the process of getting along. However, two people who truly love each other will naturally have some differences and misunderstandings. , will try their best to tolerate each other. Sometimes, understanding and tolerating each other can maintain the relationship well. And in life, if the two of you know how to tolerate each other, it means that each other must be true love!</ p>
5. Mutual loyalty
In love, the most fearful time is when the other party is not loyal to the relationship and I am obviously with myself, but I have an ambiguous relationship with other members of the opposite sex. Obviously, such a relationship is destined not to last long, and two people who truly love each other will take the initiative to keep a distance from other members of the opposite sex after being with each other. , be loyal to this relationship and stay dedicated to each other!
