When you have a disagreement with a girl, it will be difficult to convince her if you just try to reason with her, and it may even arouse her resentment, so never try to reason with a girl. So how can you convince a girl if you don't reason with her?
1. Understand the needs of girls and respond to her needs
Girls are dominated by emotions. During the chat, you have to explore the emotions in the girl's words, such as:
1) Oh, um, good: This type of short reply means that the girl is bored or your topic has caused her discomfort. Then what girls here need is companionship and joy, so you have to talk to girls in a targeted manner.
2) Send emoticons: This kind of playful reply shows that the girl is in a good mood. Girls are interested in your topic, so you should continue to delve into this topic and deepen the attraction.
3) It took a long time to reply: The girl here is busy or not interested in what you say. The best way is to stop pestering the girl to chat, retreat in time, reduce the frequency of chatting, and keep chatting Discover girls’ interests.
2. Control the demand for girls and control emotions
Has always been believed in major networks and post bars A saying: "Those who reason with girls definitely don't have girlfriends." Driven by this idea, many boys will admit their mistakes even if they know that the girl made a mistake. This approach will only make the relationship between you and the girl unequal. , and gradually lose the right to speak in future interactions.
The correct approach is to control the demand for girls and never compromise on some principled issues.
3. Use "we" as the starting point to appease girls' needs
Reasoning with girls is to solve problems, but if you want to solve girls' problems, you need to pay attention to the way you reason. , learn to look at problems from the perspective of "we" rather than "I".
Learn to be responsible for yourself and your partner. When conflicts occur, learning to deal with them shows that solving problems will make us happier in the long run.
4. Listen more to girls
When I have a dispute with a girl, many people think that I should Talking is enough, in fact, cold violence in love is more deadly. All you have to do is learn to listen, and then express your observations (without judgment or evaluation) + express your feelings (happy, scared, fearful, etc.) based on the girl’s words + Name what needs (or values, desires, etc.) cause that feeling + make a request (name what you want).
