When chatting with girls, you either don’t know what to talk about, or you don’t know how to talk. Awkward chats and cold moments are common occurrences. Here are a few chatting skills to share with you, hoping they can help you.
1. Divergent chat
When it comes to thinking, you may think it is very advanced. Learn If you don’t come, it’s actually not that mysterious. Just talk to the girl about more open-ended topics!
What is an open-ended topic? For example:
When chatting with a girl, say to her: "Last time I looked at your circle of friends, I saw that you went to XX. How did it feel?"
She will tell you about the ancient city of Lijiang, the weather, the food, Even the atmosphere of an affair, etc.
During the process of her interaction with you, you actively communicate with her based on your travel experiences and insights. At this time, effective interaction between the two can easily occur.
Even if the girl says: "It's not fun, the scenic spots all over the country are pretty much the same."
You can also extend the conversation, such as replying: "Next time, I suggest you go to XX." ”
If you don’t know what to talk about, you can pay more attention to the other person’s circle of friends or their outfit, and you might find out what would be better to talk about!
2. Topic guidance
In addition to divergent chats, you can also conduct topic guidance appropriately to guide the topic to areas that you are familiar with each other.
The topics to talk about are not limited to movies, food, music, games, as long as they are familiar to you~
Another way is to use introductory sentence patterns, such as " I just discovered a secret."
This sentence is a direct guide to the conversation, and the topic will eventually revolve around the secret you discovered.
This kind of secret can take many forms. "I just accidentally opened the diary of a good friend and found out that he has a crush on me. I never thought that I regarded him as a brother, but he would actually have This kind of thinking.”
After the guidance, the topic became easier to expand.
"Secret" can expand a lot of content, but the most important thing is guidance. Only with guidance can you reasonably express what you want to show.
In short, there are many single guidance methods, as long as you can provide the direction of the topic.
3. Leave in time
Many boys can’t stop chatting happily with girls. I hope we can chat from day to night and from night to dawn.
What’s even more embarrassing is that when the topic has been squeezed out, he keeps finding some fragmentary nonsense with the girl and continues the chat until the girl can’t stand it anymore. It was up to her to end the chat.
After that, I went to see the girl next time and found that she was lukewarm to him, and I couldn’t figure it out.
This just won’t end.
Another situation is that when ending a chat, the ending is very abrupt, giving the impression that the chat has been cut off abruptly.
This is not a good idea.
You can leave in time when the chat atmosphere is good.
There is a primacy effect in psychology, so that when you start chatting next time, she will still remember this pleasant atmosphere.
Of course, when the conversation is heated, cutting off the conversation abruptly is obviously a very uncomfortable thing, so it requires a little more skill.
A comfortable ending is to make the other party feel that you are forced to terminate. Therefore, chatting is also a skill and requires more practice.
When it comes to stopping a topic, the most common way is to find an excuse.
For example: "I'm going to be busy", "It's late and it's time to go to bed", "I'm going to take a shower", "It's time to eat", "It's time to get on the plane", etc.
But some of these reasons will make people feel perfunctory, just like the well-known one of the three treasures of the goddess "I went to take a shower".
Strictly speaking, taking a shower does not hinder chatting. If you really want to chat, you can continue chatting after taking a shower.
It is precisely because this kind of excuse for cutting off gives people the feeling that you don’t want to talk to them, then they will definitely feel very uncomfortable.
So a comfortable ending to a chat is to let the girl know that although you still want to chat with her, there is really no way to talk anymore.
For example: "The boss has arranged work for me, and I have to go and get busy." "You can't use your mobile phone when you have to drive." These are the more hard-core reasons.
Then, the same reason, said in different ways, will give girls very different feelings.
