In a relationship, chatting is a very important part. But sometimes we encounter embarrassing situations where we don’t know how to chat with our girlfriends, or we want to pursue a girl we like but don’t know how to speak. Let’s share some practical tips below.
1. Get to know the other person first
Before starting to chat, first understand the other person’s interests, hobbies, work and study, etc., which will give you more topics to talk about. Information can be obtained through daily communication, social media, etc.
For example, if she likes to travel, you can ask her where her favorite places have been and if she has any particularly unforgettable experiences; If she's a music lover, you can ask her about her favorite singer or band.
2. Focus on open-ended questions
During the chat process, try to use open-ended questions as much as possible, which can guide the other party to express their thoughts and feelings more deeply. For example, "What do you think of this movie?" is more likely to trigger the other person's thinking and response than "Do you like this movie?"
At the same time, be careful to avoid using closed questions in chats, such as "Do you think this movie is boring?" Questions like this can easily make the other party feel questioned or attacked.
3. Use humor to resolve embarrassment
Sometimes you will encounter some embarrassing situations when chatting, such as the topic suddenly stops, the wrong thing is said, etc. At this time, humor can be used to resolve the awkwardness and make the atmosphere more relaxed and pleasant.
For example, if you say a word wrong, you can laugh at yourself and say: "My English is not good, please forgive my slip of the tongue." This can not only resolve the embarrassment, but also show your sense of humor.
4. Express your thoughts and feelings frankly
In chatting, it is very important to express your thoughts and feelings frankly. If you have a different opinion on a topic, say so and give your reasons.
At the same time, you should also pay attention to avoid overly subjective or emotional expressions during chat. If you feel angry or frustrated about a topic, calm down before communicating.
5. Pay attention to words and attitudes
In chatting, words and attitudes are also very important. Try to use polite, friendly language and avoid rude or offensive language.
At the same time, you should also pay attention to the other person's feelings during the chat. If you find that the other person is reluctant to talk about a certain topic, you can change the topic or stop the discussion appropriately.
Finally, whether you are chatting with your girlfriend or pursuing the girl you like, you need to persist in working hard. Chatting is a skill that requires constant practice and improvement. Pursuing the girl you like also requires patience and perseverance, and don't give up easily.
Only keep working hard, can you get more happiness and joy in love.
