Boys who are not good at chatting, even if they have a WeChat account with a girl they like, still don’t know how to win her favor through chatting. Today I will share with you some tips on chatting with girls.
What are some tips for chatting with girls?
1. Induced chat
The induced chat method is to let you be the A "listener" transfers the initiative of chatting to the girl, and appropriately leads the topic according to the girl's mood, so that the girl is not embarrassed but feels interesting when chatting with you.
Don’t know how to chat? Then start with the simplest topics, and add your own ideas appropriately according to the girls’ updates, Weibo, NetEase Cloud and other channels to draw out the topics that the other party is interested in.
①"Hi~Joker Xue's little fan girl" "How do you know?"
"Because when I browsed NetEase Cloud yesterday, I happened to see your favorite playlist, haha ~"
②"I want to raise a cat recently, and I want to ask you some questions." "How did you know that I have a cat?"
"Because I saw your circle of friends. Taking a selfie, accidentally revealing a cat litter box~"
③"Hi~ I haven't seen you post food tips on Xiaohongshu for a long time." "Hey, I have no appetite recently! ”
“What’s wrong, are you worried about anything recently?”
Remember, the core of induced chat is to extract effective information from the information points in girls’ updates. Chat information elements, while making reasonable guesses to induce the other party to communicate more information points with you.
Even if your guess is wrong, the other party will not blame you, because you have opened up the topic and induced the other party’s desire to chat. If you guessed correctly, she will be overjoyed and continue the conversation. Guess If you make a mistake, she will smile and explain the reason to you.
2. Learn humor
The biggest difference between "humor" and "hide" is ——Humor is when you can talk about your own life, ideals and love through a vulgar truth. And "skin" means scratching the surface and looking for trouble when there is nothing to do.
"If my special cat can transform into a seductress in one step, then I will be possessed by a pig demon." This special cat is called "skin", and can even be called greasy and vulgar.
"I usually spend my time with papers and haven't interacted with girls for a long time. I may have said something that made you uncomfortable yesterday. I'm sorry~" This is called "humor". Even if you are willing to laugh at yourself, you will leave a sincere impression on others.
At the same time, you must also remember: the so-called humor is to relieve embarrassment, not to create another kind of embarrassment. Never force humor;Then it will only leave the other party with a negative impression of a "straight man pretending to be an experienced driver".
3. Output your own value
The biggest advantage of straight men is-"sincerity". There is no scumbag guy who can pick things up at his fingertips, and there is no rich experience like a warm guy. What is irreplaceable in a straight man is the sunshine and uprightness revealed in his sincerity.
Being straight is not scary. What is scary is that you know you are straight, but you have to pretend to be a veteran, and your sincerity is gone.
The purpose of chatting is not to tell the other person "how much I like you and how much I must have you", but to show him your life so that you can be attracted to her and then fall in love with you. process.
She may be very beautiful and attractive in your eyes, but you have to remind yourself repeatedly, "She is actually very ordinary, and my own value is worthy of her."
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"Value attraction" - the key factor that makes girls have impulse toward you.
Instead of chatting about random things every day and replying to each other in seconds within 20 hours, why not say, "My hands are itchy and I want to play the piano. I will record a demo for you later~"
Instead of chasing a girl to confess her love, or trying to flirt with her even though she can’t flirt with you, why not post something like, “I recently edited a vlog about my travels, please give me some advice~”
Instead of having all your specialties No, it's just awkward chatting, why not say "Haha, watch me go to the laboratory in a while, and secretly use graphite to synthesize a big diamond for you~" This is also a rare straight male romance.
