Most people are pursuing true love on the road of relationships, and everyone has a different understanding of true love. Some people even think that extramarital affairs are true love. This idea is really hard to agree with.
A happy relationship can enjoy everyone's blessings in the sun with peace of mind, but extramarital affairs can only be met with many objections and the words "We are true love, I didn't think about it" never hurt anyone" to comfort myself. But is an extramarital affair really true love?
I just want to say one thing here, stop using true love to justify cheating. True love will never be based on harming others. So what is true love?
1. How long can the relationship between lovers last?
All those who are deeply involved in extramarital affairs Men and women seem to add a layer of hard-earned filter to this immoral relationship
But I just want to ask, is there any problem that must be solved by cheating?
Don’t you want to have an affair, but someone is forcing you to betray your family and find a new love?
If there is a problem in your marriage, can’t you solve the problem?
Even if the problem really cannot be solved, the relationship has disappeared, and you can't live anymore, isn't it okay to get divorced?
After divorce, you are free to love as many people as you want.
When it comes to divorce, some people may say that he can’t bear to let go of his children or let his parents worry.
There is also the issue of property division, and he can’t bear to hurt him. Wife
Yes, she is so kind and responsible
I can’t let go of this, I can’t let go of that, but I can’t let you live without a name or status
I was talking about an immoral relationship with him, and he thought about everyone's ending after the divorce. He wanted to be responsible for everyone, but he didn't want to be responsible for you.
2. This love is not the other's love
Then I have to ask those who insist that extramarital affairs are true love It seems that your true love partner can only rank you after your children, parents, money, wife,
His reputation, and other people’s evaluations. This kind of relationship is really what you want. Do you want it?
The third party in an extramarital affair, because you cannot get any commitment from the other party
And your inner suppressed grievances, emotional desires, unknown fears, etc. wait. But these will bring more pain
Therefore, the relationship with the other person becomes more like an antidote to pain: as long as he loves me, that is enough, but does he really love you?
3. Wait onlyIt’s just an extension
I have met a girl, and like most third parties, she hopes that the man will divorce her and marry her. What’s different from others is that she initially She was raped by a mistress. She thought she was meeting a good man, but who knew she was actually a vicious wolf.
But unfortunately, after she learned the truth, she did not choose to leave. Instead, she chose to wait under the other party's seemingly sincere confession
Divorce and marry her after he settled the family relationship. , many people think she is willing to degenerate
But after seeing many men and women struggling in extramarital affairs, I understand her inability to let go.
Because her love for the other person is real, and the happiness the other person brings to her is also real. This relationship happened, and what happened is the fact. When she confronts the fact, pain will occur.
Therefore, what many people who are in extramarital affairs don’t want to hear is, “Why do you have any nostalgia for such a person? You should have let go of him long ago.”
This sentence denies their relationship over the past few years and also denies herself.
4. Two laws of true love
Back to the previous question, he really loves you ?
Maybe it’s love, otherwise I wouldn’t risk ruining my reputation for you, but he must love himself more
So once there is a conflict between your and his interests , or when he finds other ways to love himself, he will definitely choose to let you go.
Don’t say that you don’t know and if you are a victim, when you learn the truth and still choose to be with him or her, you will change from a victim to a perpetrator
< p> When a relationship starts with deception, then the relationship is bound to not have a good outcome. If you encounter someone who is unkind, you deserve sympathy. If you knowingly commit a crime, you will have to suffer for yourself.