It is not easy to have a long-term relationship. Many couples give up halfway in the long-distance love race. The following are the most difficult hurdles to overcome in love. Have you overcome them?
1. When you overcome The fear of losing her makes it easier to lose her
——"I guard and protect her every day and give her the best of myself. Why is it easy to lose her?"
In the process of pursuing a girl, when you regard her as your own, then this stage and mentality are the most difficult. You worry about gains and losses and are cautious and sensitive, while she is overwhelmed and stressed.
The best way for a boy to pursue a girl is not to tell her "you are my whole world", but to hold her hand and "take her to see the whole world."
< p> The difficulty lies in: your possessiveness and desire to control. Before a girl has established a relationship with you, you start to get jealous because "she meets other people of the opposite sex." Before she likes you that much, you flaunt your identity as your boyfriend and start taking over the girl's life.The tighter you hold on, the more girls want to break free.
Because girls really don’t like a boy who “only has himself in the world”. Such a relationship has no expectations and no future, only endless constraints and pressure.
2. Girls are not attracted by chasing them, but by attracting them
When you start to pursue someone When you are a girl, you will lose at the starting line.
Unattractive pursuits will actually have no effect and may even arouse girls’ disgust.
If a girl is interested in you, then your pursuit will become the icing on the cake. But if a girl has no interest in you, then your pursuit of her is probably just trying to impress others.
So the difficulty here is that it is difficult for boys to judge whether a girl is interested in him or not. So instead of trying your best to guess, it's better to invest in yourself and get yourself into the passing line that "can make most girls like you".
Improve your clothing, cultivate your aesthetics, develop a refined attitude towards life, and then learn to become an interesting person, then girls will think "you are a bit interesting as a boy."
3. Excessive exposure of one’s needs
To be honest, most boys’ needs are hidden Can't live.
I believe that not long after many boys have just met a girl, they will be unable to restrain their inner needs and begin to express their feelings at an inappropriate time:
- "I just like people like you. Girls"
——"I also like girls like me, hahaha"
If a girl has no ambiguity or even a good impression of you, she will naturally not pick on you. But most boys have trouble "feeling good about themselves", thinking that they haven't done enough to impress girls.
What’s the result?
You stared at this girl like a hungry wolf. Before you even got close to that girl, she was scared away by you. So you started to chase her like crazy again, and she ran like crazy. Finally, you finally caught her, and she said to you silently, "I think you are a good man, but..."
Girls are very defensive creatures, you The more eager for quick success and quick gain you expose your sense of need, the more unsafe girls will feel. The more violent you start to behave, the more she will think, "Are you doing this to other girls?" So when a girl is approached by a hungry wolf, she will immediately choose to run away.
